17 year Old Stage. Arrgh!!

Well I'm back to arguing with my kids. Last year was with my eldest when he was 17. This year it's with my 2nd son who is 17!!!

What is it about being 17 that turns you into an arrogant selfish git! Hubby & I can't say anything to Jim atm, as when we do it turns into an argument. If we ask him to do something he gives some sarcastic comment and complains, if we ask him to clean after himself he's complaining again. I don't mean little complaints, I mean he's really arrogant, and he has an arrogant & selfish attitude atm. It's like he thinks he shouldn't have to do things for himself. He's been like this for a couple of months now, but it seems to be getting worse. It's starting to get me down, and after he was having a go at me and hubby for asking him to clean his mess up off the side, after he had done his breakfast, I lost my temper and told him to move out. He yelled he would if he could. To be honest, I don't really want him to move out, but his attitude makes me wish he would. I am sick to death of the tension in the house and I'm fed up with the arguments. I know he would be much happier if he left home.

Yes I love him to bits, but I don't really like the way he's behaving atm. Guess it's a stage he's going through like his brother did. But I am sick to death of it. Why should I put up with being treated like shit. All I ask for is some manners and a little respect. He goes round the house like he hates us.

I wish he would go back to being the polite, helpful and loving person he was before all this. He can really be a good person, and he is a good person. But sadly lately he has this bad attitude towards me and his dad.